Never leave your first love

Now before you get it twisted…it’s not what you think it is. In this case “first love” is not referring to a significant other, but to something that you love to do, that one thing that completes you. Whatever it is…music, dance, the arts, photography; never leave it!

I have realized that as we strive to survive and succeed in this money driven world we sometimes forsake the things that we love for those things that will bring us money. And at times we don’t really have a choice because what we love won’t make ends meet and we are forced to find the next best thing. But sometimes our parents force us to let it go because they think it’s silly and frivolous and we won’t amount to anything. And other times we just choose to conform because the rest of society frowns upon “such professions” and we let it go. But as hard as it may be there is no reason for us to curb our passions and lock them away in this deep dark secret place never to be opened again.

My first love is dance. I’ve never been able to get professional training but I’ve learnt some tricks watching other dancers (YouTube is my best friend 😀 lol). I cannot even begin to explain what happens in my heart when I watch people express themselves through movement, it’s just amazing! I’ve watched a few shows and involved myself in little performances whenever I’ve had the opportunity but that’s never been much. Dance has always taken a back seat to everything else even though I love it so much.

We get so caught up in our “hussle” that we become zombies oblivious to anything else but work. You wake up, work, sleep and repeat for the rest of your life. There is so much more to life than this. Never ever let go of the things that make you happy. And I’m not saying give up your job or quit school…I’m saying find a way to weave it back into your life. Find that special place and special time for you to reconnect with your first love! I know I will ❤

P.S. Here’s a video by one of my favourite YouTube Dancers “Brian Puspos”: 

Wise words from Timothy Maurice Webster

So my last post was all about figuring out what your next milestone is and figuring out the formula for you to get there. Well, I had a chat with Timothy Maurice Webster, a thought leader in Brand Leadership, Design and Innovation but honestly just a really awesome person, and he shared with me his formula which I’m going to share with you 🙂 !!


Once university life is just about over, what’s next? What’s the next step? Timothy advises that from here you need to think of your post-graduate life as a theme or campaign. And in order to create that theme you need a formula:

My career & my skills + A void in society = A number of things that you’re going to do.

His campaign theme is “to inspire a revolution in thinking around behaviour, consumer behaviour and strategy towards your own life etc.” To get to this theme he used the formula: His skills as a writer and a thinker + A void in society = A certain level of discipline towards writing. Your own theme should be well defined and be able to create a very specific focus on what you want to do. Your theme needs to become a part of who you are, it needs to drive your interests and your goals.

The greatest mistake that we can make is to think of our careers in the short-term. We can get so caught up in surviving and making ends meet that we miss out on the universe. As Timothy explains, you need to extend your formula beyond your current day, beyond the current year and beyond the current space. You need to broaden the width of your universe! If you’re staring up at the sky and you can only focus on a couple of stars, you miss out on the vastness of the universe.

This is only but a fraction of the inspiring words that Timothy had to share, but I hope that this that I have shared with you is enough for to give you perspective in your own life, to help set you off in the right direction.

What’s your next milestone?

Navigating the course of my life for the past couple of years has been pretty easy. All my goals have been school related you know? It’s all been about getting good grades, qualifying for the next grade, passing matric, getting to university and qualifying for Honours. I mean even with sports and other extra mural activities school has been my platform. But now with three months left at university I’m faced with a whole new world of possibilities and decisions and it’s rather overwhelming. The journey doesn’t end when you graduate, it’s only the beginning!

Now that I’m passed navigating my education, I need to set out the course of my career; and this is a whole new ball game. I need to figure out where I want to work, who I want to work for, do I want to start my own business, how long do I want to stay in the marketing field and do I want to study further at some point? While considering work I need to start thinking about whether or not I want to get married and have kids (which I do), and what that means for my career. I’m still far away from getting married but I need to start thinking about that now. Every little decision I make today affects my tomorrow.

The formula for succeeding in school is pretty straightforward: Work hard and put in the hours, attend your classes, do your assignments and all that fuss and you will be A-okay. But the formula for succeeding after varsity isn’t so clear cut anymore, there are so many factors to consider and so many other people influencing the process. But after meeting some pretty inspiring people this year I know that one thing remains the same…you have to work for it! You can’t just sit around reacting to whatever life throws at you…then you’re just a drifter with no real purpose or direction. You have to know what YOU want so when life throws you a curveball you still get to your destination. Whether that destination is greatness, success, failure or mediocrity it’s all up to you.

So think about it long and hard, what’s your next milestone?