You need to learn to swim

What started off as a varsity related research interview turned into a really amazing mentoring session with the owner of the famous Vovo Telo at 44 Stanley! She is one of the sweetest women I have ever met and she gave me great advice. “You need to learn to swim”, she said. It doesn’t matter how deep or how rough the waters of life are before you, if you can swim, you can make it through, and you will survive. Now how do you make sure your strength doesn’t run out and you don’t drown?

  1. You need a support system

You need people you can rely on, people who have your back and will support you. This could be your family, a friend(s), boyfriend or whoever you know you can trust. When you feel like your strength is faltering, you need these guys rooting for you and spurring you on. Having someone in your corner makes all the difference even in the smallest ways.

  1. Let go of all fear

Yes, this is easier said than done. It’s only natural for us to fear and become negative when we are faced with unforeseen circumstances. Sometimes we fear the things that could make us great, we fear to take that first step because we’re afraid of failure. See it’s okay to be scared at first, but the trick is not to dwell on that fear.

  1. Remember the world is your oyster

You can do anything you want to and be anything you want to be; you define and design your life. Do the things that you’re passionate about, and grab opportunities with arms wide open. It doesn’t matter how old you are, you can still find a way to make it happen.

Our journey through life is never easy…sometimes the waves are so strong they push you back, and with your head under water there seems to be no way. But as long as you can keep paddling and get your head above water, you will make your way to shore, you will reach your goals.


When I go through trying times, I tend to get  really nostalgic. I long for a time when my life made sense and things seemed simpler. Sometimes the present seems so unbearable that the only thing thing to hold on on to is the memory of a time when things seemed perfect (although things never really are), and a hope that things will be that way again eventually. Such is the way of life right? Here’s a little piece I wrote:

Take me back

Today was a beautiful day, the sun warm on my face, the breeze soothing against my skin and the air thick in my lungs.
A beautiful day it was…mystical… with a hint of nostalgia that made every breath a blissful memory.
The air was filled with happiness and the sky bright with hope
Oh how I wished the wind could whisk me away to that place when laughter lit up the soul and smiles were genuine.
With every breath my heart expanded with longing building its core
So I soaked up the light in the sun, embraced the freedom in the wind and prayed that the air I breathed would take me back to that place…
When every day was summer

– Mamello Maitse 

If you can dream it, you can achieve it…Right?

“Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.”


I’ve heard and read many a quote about how we can make our dreams a reality…it’s all so inspiring at first when you read it, but then you’re faced with 101 challenges and the inspiration is gone as quick as it came. But I like this quote in particular because it refers to being bold…something I haven’t quite mastered yet, but I’ve realized it goes a long way. If we can be brave and bold enough to push through whatever may come our way…maybe then our dreams will become tangible. Maybe then we wouldn’t let fear stop us from becoming all we can be….