Little Ms 20 something 


How could it be?
20 something, all alone still
Not a thing in my name
Ain’t got nothin’, runnin’ from love
Only know fear
That’s me, Ms. 20 Something
Ain’t got nothin’, runnin’ from love
Wish you were here, oh

–  SZA

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Pressure

At what point in life are you supposed to have it all figured out? Know exactly what you want to do with your life – with who, when, where and how? Does that point ever even come? Or is life really just a work in progress…where we figure things out in bits and pieces as we go? 

For some reason there seems to be so much pressure to know it all – have it all NOW. Or am I the one putting the pressure on myself? Sometimes it’s really hard to tell. I guess it’s just one of those things I need to learn. Every person’s journey is different…we reach different milestones at different stages. And above all else…I can’t let anyone else dictate where in my life I should or should not be. It’s me vs me in this life. And that’s all I need to worry about. 

Taking the plunge

So its been ages since my last post…The grown up world tends to swallow you sometimes! You get so caught up in work and survival you forget to lift your head up and breathe.

I have been working for a little over a year now and it has been interesting and challenging. I’m not particularly  crazy about my current job…it’s not exactly in the field of what I studied, but I needed to start off here because of my bursary and it seemed like something I would enjoy at first. But anyways, what I’m trying to get at is things haven’t exactly worked out according to “the plan”. And as much as that seriously frustrates me sometimes, it’s okay – because I know every little experience I go through will groom me.

I have spent the last couple of months reflecting and laying out my cards on the table and planning my next move. I realised that I am at a crossroad – I’ve figured out where I wanna be in my career, but as I stare at the cards on the table it’s pretty daunting. A lot of things are going to have to change for me to get to where I wanna be and it’s scary. This path I’m about to embark on requires me to be brave…braver than I’ve ever dared to be.

I’m at a place where I need to decide whether or not to take plunge, to let go of all my fears and dive into the waters of uncertainty, with nothing but a resilience to reach my end goal against all odds. Will I dare to be great? I know it won’t be easy…but it will be worth it!

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What’s your next milestone?

Navigating the course of my life for the past couple of years has been pretty easy. All my goals have been school related you know? It’s all been about getting good grades, qualifying for the next grade, passing matric, getting to university and qualifying for Honours. I mean even with sports and other extra mural activities school has been my platform. But now with three months left at university I’m faced with a whole new world of possibilities and decisions and it’s rather overwhelming. The journey doesn’t end when you graduate, it’s only the beginning!

Now that I’m passed navigating my education, I need to set out the course of my career; and this is a whole new ball game. I need to figure out where I want to work, who I want to work for, do I want to start my own business, how long do I want to stay in the marketing field and do I want to study further at some point? While considering work I need to start thinking about whether or not I want to get married and have kids (which I do), and what that means for my career. I’m still far away from getting married but I need to start thinking about that now. Every little decision I make today affects my tomorrow.

The formula for succeeding in school is pretty straightforward: Work hard and put in the hours, attend your classes, do your assignments and all that fuss and you will be A-okay. But the formula for succeeding after varsity isn’t so clear cut anymore, there are so many factors to consider and so many other people influencing the process. But after meeting some pretty inspiring people this year I know that one thing remains the same…you have to work for it! You can’t just sit around reacting to whatever life throws at you…then you’re just a drifter with no real purpose or direction. You have to know what YOU want so when life throws you a curveball you still get to your destination. Whether that destination is greatness, success, failure or mediocrity it’s all up to you.

So think about it long and hard, what’s your next milestone?

Survival 101: Know how much you spend

There’s just something about that sms that says “you’ve got money in the bank” that makes me want to eat out, buy that dress I’ve been coveting or simply just splurge because I can. This hasn’t always worked out so well towards the end of the month, but I’ve always called home spinning a story for mom to hook me up. But once you start earning some of your own that story doesn’t fly anymore.

Being disciplined with money is hard, but it just needs practice. The best advice I received a few weeks ago at a workshop is to know how much you spend. I mean, I’ve always had an idea of more or less how much I spend on different things, but I’ve never actually calculated exactly how much I spend every month on groceries, airtime, eating out, shopping, transport and so on. I consider myself to be a thrifty spender but once I got down to the nitty gritty I realized that I spend on things I don’t need sometimes, and on those occasions that money could have gone towards wiser purchases.

Budgeting, something I’ve totally taken for granted makes a huge difference. Laying out your expenditure to the tee, including how much you’ll spend going out with friends, eating out, buying clothes, being spontaneous, etc are some of the things that will help you become disciplined. Practice staying within the boundaries you’ve set for yourself and once the big money starts rolling in, you won’t make the same unnecessary purchases and you can easily plan out building your empire.

On the lighter side, don’t ever go grocery shopping on an empty stomach, you’ll end up buying half the grocery store and filling the trolley with things you’ll regret, lol. Trust me…I know!

For Laughs: Who said growing up is lame??

Who said growing up is lame?

I don’t know who said that, but that’s exactly what I think. For me growing up means getting older…and getting older means your life is getting closer to its end. Weird mentality, I know, but growing older terrifies me. For some reason growing up does not seem like a fun prospect at all.  Even though I’m surrounded by plenty awesome “older” people, who are living it up, I can’t seem to shake this feeling.

I’ve been interning over June recess and I got to work with some pretty cool “older” people! At work a few days ago I sat outside on the stairs with some colleagues (I was the youngest), soaking up the hot sun at lunchtime like school kids at break. The oldest lady amongst us jumped up and said, “Let’s take a picture!” We all laughed for a moment since it would be expected that I would be the one jumping up for such opportunities (#instamoment). But she was serious so we all huddled up and put on our best smiles.

Once we had taken the picture she asked me to help her share it on Facebook. I gladly assisted and asked her what she’d like the caption to be. She smiled at me and said, “I don’t know…how about…chilling with my peeps at lunchtime?” I choked back the laughter with a smile and did as requested.

This moment was super special because this lady is significantly older than me. I honestly did not expect “peeps” to be in her vocabulary! I walked away feeling amused and thinking – maybe growing up isn’t so lame after all. Just Maybe.