The Reality is…

Love has no fail-safe…

-Mamello Maitse

Soul mates

People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…

– Elizabeth Gilbert

Happy ever always 

Happy endings? Those don’t exist in real life. Somehow we tend to believe  when we reach a certain point in our lives we will finally be happy and all will be prefect. Just like in the fairy tales when the princess defeats the evil queen against all odds and lives “happily ever after” with her prince – we think we’ll only be happy when we’ve achieved/overcome certain things. I’ll be happy when I pass grad school, I’ll be happy when I get my dream job, I’ll be happy when I  make enough money, I’ll be happy once I get married, I’ll be happy once I have kids, I’ll be happy when I do this and that and the list goes on forever.

Happiness is not a destination…it’s in the journey. The saying should be “happy ever always”. You won’t be happy “after” whatever it is you think you need to do…because the goal post always moves. Once you’ve achieved one thing you’ll move to the next – are you gonna be unhappy in between these destinations? Don’t fall into that trap. The joy is in the journey…The destinations only add to the joy that already exists! Seek out the joy in every moment…it’s always there.

Here’s to happy ever always!